Meizhu Lui

Jul 262012
 

Over the course of three days, we connected, shared, strategized and transformed in a beautiful home where streams of sunlight flooded the space, giving life to the multi-color décor. Our stories of love, trauma, struggle and resilience were as bright and rich as the colors in the curtains, etched into artwork from around the world and painted onto walls.

The first Standing in Our Power (SiOP) core leadership team retreat was held on June 6-9 at the blessed abode of core member, Shilpa Jain, in Berkeley, CA. One of my favorite memories was sitting around a large, round wooden table–that felt like it was made just for us—while we shared communally prepared food.

We began our core retreat with ritual, led by Dayanara Marte (Dee) and Omisade Burney-Scott. It was a beautiful, co-creative process that allowed each of us to honor something greater than ourselves. Shilpa led a ‘Snowball Inquiry” activity that surfaced questions that are real for us at this time. It was like sewing together a quilt with disparate yet strikingly interconnected patches.

From the discussions that ensued, a thread began to weave throughout the retreat in the form of an inquiry: How can we embody a new way of ‘being’ and release the constant pressure of ‘doing.’ Honoring that question, we were able to slow down, breathe and be present. We agreed that the inaugural SiOP retreat, scheduled to happen October 25-28 in Ohio, will focus, in large part, on who we want to be as Women of Color leaders. We will explore how to embody new ways of leadership and release the overwhelming sense of anxiety and inadequacy that comes with needing to do the next best thing.

We then took a deep dive into some much-needed healing work with Dee and Piper Anderson through a process called “Emotional Release,” which has been developed by Dee in her work with Women of Color in the New York City. It was an incredible individual journey inward and then back to the collective. I personally uncovered traumas that I had packed away so well that I forgot they even existed. Together, we laughed, cried and held space for each other as we explored how our hearts had been broken.

Meizhu Lui, our amazing elder on the core, then led us through a process to deepen our political analysis and framework. We examined historical and contemporary data that spoke profoundly of the social inequities experienced by Women of Color. This process definitely got us fired up. As Meizhu tells us: we need to know how we got here to then be able to transform our present and future. Cherine Badawi led us in a World Café process – as we walked in pairs throughout Shilpa’s neighborhood – which explored Women of Color leadership by tapping into our experiences and visions. As the retreat came to a close, we appreciated each other, shared gifts and celebrated with music and poetry.

The retreat yielded a powerful draft agenda that we plan to continue refining as we finalize our list of attendees for the first national SiOP gathering. As we continue our deep listening phase and begin building the next circle that will help to develop the larger network, the energy of our core retreat guides us. These next few months will be a time to continue focusing on how to be, while we also manage a series of tasks. I have no doubt that it will also unfold and flow in a truly magical way.

Nov 292011
 

m.lui-blog-imageI often describe myself as a “professional troublemaker.”  

Hold it – what happened to someone who was expected to be a nice, quiet, studious Chinese girl!?  
My life had been shaped by being the daughter of immigrant parents and all the stereotypes that calls up for those who came into contact with me – from the time I was a baby to becoming a woman, from family members to strangers, from other Asians to those of other races.  The pressure from an early age was to meet those expectations by becoming a super-achiever and a super-daughter, by not speaking out of turn and not rocking the boat. But then accidentally I became a very bad Asian daughter: I got pregnant my first year out of high school. And in retrospect, that disaster was just what I needed to knock me off the beaten path and on to an uncharted journey in which I discovered who I really wanted to be and how I wanted to relate to others.

As a single mom, my race, class and gender defined my possibilities:  because of the work hours I needed so I could take care of my son, the only job I could find was at Dunkin‘ Donuts.  But women were only allowed to be the lower paid counter “girls,” while men could be donut-makers. And as an Asian, the boss expected me to work harder for less than the white “girls.”

Which pissed me off! It wasn’t fair!  Suddenly, I did not want to accept third rate status because of my race and gender, I did not want to play the game.  My best friend was already a feminist and a socialist. I went East to live with her and together we decided to dedicate our lives to ending the oppressive system of capitalism.  That meant joining a socialist organization, since you can’t be a “social”ist by acting as an individual.  I am still a member and credit this long involvement with much of my development.

Rather than thinking about a “career,” I took jobs based on consultation with my comrades so that my work could best contribute to our shared goal of unifying workers and combatting racism and sexism.  That’s why I call myself a “professional troublemaker”:  my profession became finding the job from which I could best rattle the cage.  My longest stint was 20 years as a hospital food service worker; from a rank and file union activist, I was elected President of my local – the first Asian woman to do so in Massachusetts.  It was the best and most honest leadership position I’ve had.  While later I was an ED of a national non-profit, you aren’t elected to those positions by the people you organize/serve; you select yourself and are approved by a pretty small board.

As a labor and then community organizer, I realized that qualities are as important as skills, and that women have the qualities of compassion, deep listening, nurturing, and relationship building that are essential to building a new society.  I found my power by tapping into those qualities, to consciously identify women’s ways as assets, to name them, to use them.  Our society usually devalues what women have to offer, but we don’t have to accept that. For example, women are “too emotional” to be effective, right?  When as a union steward I was representing a worker, sometimes I would get so angry I would cry; but crying isn’t a weakness unless you let it be one. I could both cry and be effective at the same time.  Being a woman of color in a white man’s world means we are round pegs in square holes. I’m “standing in my power” when instead of forcing myself to fit, I’m changing the shape of the hole.

Women of color – African American, Native American, Latina, Asian – often teach and learn through story telling.  We have sometimes shared stories of the painful experiences we have had of being silenced, made invisible, insulted, set up to fail.  And for those who have succeeded, it has sometimes been at the price of “fitting,” much like the Chinese women of old who met the criterion for beauty by having their feet crippled to fit into 3 inch shoes.

But more and more, women of color have achieved their own goals on their own terms.  Over the last few decades, we have defined for ourselves what we mean by “success,” and we have found our power by not being silent, by being visible, by following our hearts, by insisting on good process, by not doing it alone, by modeling new forms of leadership.

The world is on the cusp of change, ready for new models of leadership, for new definitions of democracy. The non-hierarchical models used by Occupy Wall Street owe much to the work of women. It couldn’t be a better time for Standing in our Power to form! Together, women of color can give each other the support to follow the paths we know are right – both in terms of what we do with our lives and how we do it.  We can tell our stories. We can learn from each other’s experiences.  We can give advice. We can test out new methods.  We can laugh and we can cry.   We can model new ways to organize ourselves.  We can create a beloved community.  We can give ourselves a taste of a better world to come.

Given that the nation will be majority people of color by 2042 and that women will be more than 50%, we are definitely the ones we’ve been waiting for – and they don’t know it yet, but we’re the ones everyone has been waiting for!

Meizhu Lui, SiOP Core Committee, took the mantra “Educate, Agitate, Organize!” as the theme for her life’s work. As a hospital food service worker and union activist, she organized to demand that “women’s work” not be undervalued and underpaid, and to challenge occupational segregation. Later, as a community organizer for Health Care for All Massachusetts, then as Executive Director of United for a Fair Economy, and finally as Director of the Closing the Racial Wealth Gap Initiative, she became known for her outspoken activism in ending race and gender inequities.A co-author of The Color of Wealth: The Story Behind the US Racial Wealth Divide, her views have been published in various books and magazines. Her op-eds, blogs, and interviews have received attention from media sources such as the Washington Post, Huffington Post, C-SPAN’s Washington Journal, and CNN’s Anderson Cooper show. Meizhu served on the Center for American Progress’ National Initiative to End Poverty, which resulted in the “Half in Ten” campaign. She is a member of Freedom Road Socialist Organization, committed to a society that puts people first. Her work has been recognized by numerous women’s and community organizations including the Union of Minority Neighborhoods, the Barr Foundation, the Boston Women’s Fund, theYWCA, and others.